by Laura | Jun 26, 2019 | Gratitude
We are taught sometimes to reject our self. When we act bitchy, as women can, we are told that is not okay. You have to learn to understand yourself to know why this inner something is coming out, this inner bitch, this inner bully, whatever that inner thing inside of you is, was something that you created to protect yourself. If you got angry at yourself for that inner thing, that protects you, then it’s going to be this war inside your head. We created everything that we use as a protective mechanism to protect our self. If we have our inner bully, inner bitch, inner child, an inner victim – these are things that we use to protect ourselves and we all have those. When we learn to love that little defensiveness, we tell our self, it’s okay. We have been taught to reject our self, and that part of our self we have created is to protect our self. What we are going to do is, you no longer need it, and say I love you and I am here for you and I got your back. Call on your inner Christ, Jesus left the comforter and he’s in you if you don’t believe in that, knowing a higher power out, trust in that instead of rejecting yourself for something you created to protect yourself. Because when we use love instead of rejection to dispute anything, love destroys anything that is not of you. When you get that little protective guard up, that want you to react and even if you do react, have it yourself, be light-hearted. Say hey little girl or little guy, I got your back, We all have that thing inside of us that comes out to protect us. If we only get a hammer, everything looks like a nail or bodies created reactive ways to respond to our world according to the ways we are raised. What we are going to do is we are going to reprogram our brain not to respond that way and you do not want it to do by rejecting yourself. You want to do it by owning yourself and laughing at that little child. When your children act in a way that you do not like, you kindly guide them to the way that you want them or you desire for them to be, but you do not reject them. Rejecting any part of yourself is never a good thing. It only leads to a war inside of your head. Learning to love yourself, love that inner self, she comes out to protect you, whatever that is. You are going to say, wait a minute, you are coming out right now and you can just be real. Hey, right now I am in real vulnerable state, do not push me too hard, this bitch is going to come out. Learning to love yourself, just learning to love every part of yourself, the good, the bad, the ugly, because when we can love our self, we can grow. But anything that we reject, comes back with a freaking vengeance. Be careful of this, for what you thought to hate, because it sucks. Hate is never good. You do not want to hate anything, you do not want to reject anything, you want to choose – have preferences and it is going to make your life so much easier. If this resents with you and if not, that’s okay. Just know that love every part of yourself. Love the bitch, love the inner child, love the bully, love all those little things you created in yourself to survive to this moment and you can lay the bully to rest, the inner bitch down and can choose to take the higher out. It feels better not to react to the world, and not to reject things and just to be and have preferences, instead of rejecting things in people, because nobody wants to be rejected. Rejection can cause a lot of pain in people and not just odd about that. It has been an amazing and forming new process. Just allow yourself to be present and witness yourself, witness all of those things that come out in you and see what serves you and what does not anymore and what does not just lay it to rest. It’s okay. It serves you to this point. Have a funeral part that you have to, but love you, God only made one of You and live to the fullest. Without letting yourself get pulled into energies of resistance and struggle and whole lot stuff, not just worth it, it’s not worth it. Be beautiful, be amazing, be powerful and be YOU.
by Laura | Jun 25, 2019 | Gratitude
Person 1: I was born with a genetic condition called Cystic Fibrosis. My parents were told that I wasn’t going to live past 12 years old.
Person 2: I went in for about 3 interviews and I was so confident this was the one. And I didn’t get it. That was really hard.
Person 3: For the longest time I also wanted to be a Dad and I’m gay so it’s not like it could be 16 & Pregnant in the backseat of a Chevy or something.
Person 4: Over 400 people came. I was 1 of 10 girls that got called back. He picked everybody in front of who he wanted and he didn’t pick me and I was like, wow. I’ve worked my butt off for this.
Person 5 and 6: So here we were newly married and I didn’t have a job , but it was a time when there wasn’t very much support in regards to women’s rights.
Person 7: I was playing mud football with a bunch of my friends. My kneecap got severely dislocated and I ended up having to have surgery and it was really a terrifying time for me.
Person 8: She read the script, I got it back. Every single page had notes on it. This is the rejection part – You should take writing classes. You’re not funny.
Person 9: I remember the x-ray technician saying to me, You need to be checked into the hospital immediately.
Person 10: Everything is supposed to be golden. It was a business school and I went to an Ivy League business school and I just was like devastated by not having anything happening and seeing all friends, things happen for them.
I know, it’s hard to understand right now, but every delay has a blessing. By the time we’re 30, we’re expected to have everything figured out. But when we’re still failing, getting rejected and push backs, we realize life doesn’t work like that. Often, what appears as a curse can be our biggest blessing. Every breakdown can be a breakthrough. Every failure can be a step forward.
This man played Severus Snape in Harry Potter. He studied Graphic Design before Drama, going back to school to follow his passion at the age of 26. That was in 1972. He got his first BBC role in 1978. His first film role? Not until 1988 when he was 42 years old. His name is Alan Rickman.
This person, prior to publishing the first entry in the series, this person was a single mother on welfare and almost suicidal. During this time, she wrote Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone
while looking into becoming a teacher. She was also dealing with an ex-husband and all the challenges of being a single mother. She, of course, is J.K Rowling.
Remember this, someone graduated at 21, but waited for 6 years to get a job. Someone has no education, but was a millionaire at 21. Someone got married at 20 and divorced 5 years later. Someone got married at 35, but found everlasting love.
It’s not being quick, instant or now. It’s about your timing. Something maybe delayed, it may even be denied, but it doesn’t die unless you let it. Every delay has a blessing. If you keep going.
Person 8: And then I think less than one year later I got an Emmy nomination for co-writing an episode of Seinfeld. That opened up my career.
Person 10: I then went on to run a production company for almost 20 years or so. We won an Emmy award
Person 5 & 6: I became the Cultural Coordinator and then the Production Manager if the Public Television Network of the state and then I was hired by a 4 Agency as a Vice President and then I opened my own agency.
Person 1 :There’s no statistic and there’s no number for someone’s desire to fight or someone’s fight inside of them.
Person 4: But maybe, I wasn’t the right person for that particular job but he remembered me for another job.
Person 7: A year later, I found myself at the starting line of a Sprint-Triathlon. And all told, I ended up doing over 50 races including 4 IronMan distance races.
Person 3 : And then, with my son and having a kid, I mean, I just didn’t think that was just not going to happen and it did
Person 1 : Empathy and gratitude is what makes me want to help other people because I know what they’re going through. You remember your dono and you honor them by helping others.
Person 9 : I believe that your mind definitely affects you, if you’re not in that mindset to stay positive. Especially when you’re challenged with an illness.
Person 2: Everything that you’re going through right now, no matter how painful and how hard it is to get through, you’ll get through it and you’ll be stronger because of it.
by Laura | Jun 20, 2019 | Blog
My goal is to find ecstasy in each moment. Could you find something at this moment to feel joyous about, to appreciate, to feel ecstatic about it? If you really wanted to? Yes or No? But seems most of us don’t really want to, we let the old brain, the survival brain run into, but needs into shifting, so the more we start to condition ourselves, to change your state, it becomes easier, but also if you want to change your life, there’s a point to make a decision that says – I’m going to live a beautiful state no matter what, and if you do, you can always find something you’d be grateful to be appreciative. Yes or No? But what kills it is an expectation. I always tell people – Trade your expectations for appreciation and your whole life will change at that moment because the moment we appreciate things, all the sufferings gone.
by Laura | Jun 19, 2019 | Blog
This is not about being rich or poor. It’s about being egotistical or grateful.
It’s so easy to become attracted to someone’s external success that we may miss their internal values. It’s so easy to become attracted to money and luxury that we might miss the kindness and inner peace. If someone drives you crazy, it doesn’t matter what car they drive. If someone is arrogant, it doesn’t matter where you eat, because you’ll always be hungry for care. If someone doesn’t have manners, it doesn’t matter how much money they have in the bank. Don’t let someone’s income distract you from their intentions. Don’t let someone’s paycheck distract you from their passion for you. And don’t let someone’s success elude you from their support. Someone may be able to give you amazing experiences, but someone else will give you meaningful memories. Someone may be able to give you travel across the world, but someone else will travel with you through challenges. Someone may be able to give you all the money in the world, but someone else will give you stability and certainty. And someone may be able to give you access to everywhere, but someone else will give you their attention and presence. It’s not about the things someone can give you, it’s about the love they can give you. It’s not about what someone has or what they can do, it’s about who they are and how they treat you.
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